You’ve probably heard the term “parenting triggers” mentioned a lot; phrases
like “manage your triggers” or “what’s triggering you?” But what exactly is a
parenting trigger?
Put simply, a parenting trigger is that one thing your child does that stirs up
feelings of anger, frustration, or helplessness. Once you identify what that is,
you’ve found your parenting trigger!
As a mum of three children, all close in age, my biggest trigger was always
when my kids argued. The constant bickering, shouting, telling tales, and even
physical fights would really get to me.
And while triggers are a normal reaction to stress and frustration, they are also
a signal of what needs to change.
For example, bickering children is going to trigger a reaction in you. A natural
reaction might be to raise your voice, take sides, tell them off, or even remind
them to be grateful to have each other. But “reactions” don’t stop arguments;
only “responses” will.
It’s important to be the calm in your children’s chaos, but knowing how to
respond in these moments so that your children can manage their own
conflicts in a healthy way, is the key.
One progressive strategy is to get your children to sort out their own arguments.
It’s a game changer, and I teach you how to do this in my 1:1 sessions.
For support managing your triggers or understanding how to help your children
build healthier sibling relationships, get in touch. I’d love to work with you and
help make your parenting journey feel easier.
