Did you know that firstborn children are often more defensive when receiving
guidance? This can be due to several reasons:
- Higher Expectations:
We have high expectations of our first born, and as each new sibling
enters the family, our expectations will naturally rise (side note, I still
remember coming home from hospital after giving birth to my second
child and being shocked at how much my first born’s head had
grown in the space of 24 hours?!) - Shift in Attention:
They once had your undivided attention until (for example) a
sibling arrived, prompting them to develop new strategies to win
back your focus. - Strict Parenting:
Firstborns naturally receive stricter parenting from us, leading them to
develop defensive strategies to cope with these expectations.
So, how do you communicate an important message to a defensive child who
may even suffer from confidence issues?
A proven method is to give your child 5 positive statements before any negative
feedback.
Once they receive positive feedback, they’re much more receptive to help and
advice.
Want more practical parenting tips like this?
During my Bespoke and Group programmes, I share logical, immediate strategies
that you can start using with your child, regardless of their temperament.
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