Just like adults, children have different ways of feeling and expressing love,
known as love languages.
The way to discover your child’s love language is to see how they show you love
and affection.
Here’s a quick breakdown of the five primary love languages for kids:
Physical Touch
Does your child enjoy giving you hugs, kisses, cuddles, and other forms of physical
affection when they show you love? If so, then physical touch is how they like to
receive love.
Words of Affirmation
If your child writes you notes, praises you regularly and speaks to you lovingly,
words of affirmation is their love language.
Quality Time
If your child likes to engage you in their activities, giving you their undivided
attention during play, it means that one to one, quality time makes them feel
cherished and loved.
Gifts
If your child draws pictures for you, gives you little presents (i.e. a daisy plucked
from the grass) your child sees gifts as a tangible symbol of love.
Acts of Service
If your child likes doing things for you, such as helping you find something or
making you breakfast in bed, they show love through actions and support.
How your child’s love language is linked to their behaviour
Although children may lean towards one primary love language, they express all
five love languages when feeling secure, loved and well-rounded.
I remember working with a parent who had noticed that their child had stopped
hugging them – the child was 8 years old at the time.
My client assumed their child didn’t enjoy hugs anymore, and was devastated when
they realised it was due to the disconnect that had occurred in their relationship.
Her child’s behaviour had been challenging for quite some time. iPads were constantly
having to be confiscated and there was a lot of aggressive behaviour towards
younger siblings. My client was at her wits end and was keen to get out of this
negative cycle.
After working together over 6 sessions, my client used proven and effective methods
of discipline to transform her sons behaviour, seeing a deeper connection form
between her and her son.
A parent-child bond can break down for so many reasons so if you’ve noticed that
you’re stuck in a negative cycle and want to see an immediate transformation in
yourself or your child, please book a free consultation call and let’s talk
about the challenges you’re having.
I’d love to support you.
